{"id":306,"date":"2018-02-02T10:39:53","date_gmt":"2018-02-02T01:39:53","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/kuis.kandagaigo.ac.jp\/relayjournal\/?page_id=306"},"modified":"2023-11-16T13:29:15","modified_gmt":"2023-11-16T04:29:15","slug":"guven-yalcin","status":"publish","type":"page","link":"https:\/\/kuis.kandagaigo.ac.jp\/relayjournal\/issues\/jan18\/guven-yalcin\/","title":{"rendered":"In-Between the Process and the Outcome in Advising in Language Learning: Reflecting on my Very First Advising Session"},"content":{"rendered":"

Gamze G\u00fcven Yal\u00e7\u0131n, Y\u0131ld\u0131r\u0131m Beyaz\u0131t University, Ankara, Turkey<\/strong><\/p>\n

G\u00fcven Yal\u00e7\u0131n, G. (2018). In-between the process and the outcome in advising in language learning: Reflecting on my very first advising session. Relay<\/em> Journal, 1<\/em>(1), 65-77.\u00a0https:\/\/doi.org\/10.37237\/relay\/010106<\/p>\n

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Context and Background<\/strong><\/p>\n

This paper contains the reflections of a novice advisor who had the opportunity to attend a thoroughly comprehensive four phase-training program, the first of which had the purpose of teaching the basics of advising (philosophy, strategies, knowledge, etc.) with hands-on practice. As for the practice, the trainees were assigned to have a practice session with a student near the end of the first phase at the Self-Access Learning Center (\u2018The SALC\u2019) at Kanda University of International Studies (KUIS) in Japan, where the training itself took place.<\/p>\n

The SALC environment is suitable for any type of academic engagement. Particularly the interior sections which are seperated by brick walls from each other and provide the privacy that advising sessions require. This was not only because it was where actual advising sessions took place, but its being surrounded by concrete walls, thus creating a cosy atmosphere. This was the reason for me as a novice advisor to pick this spot to have our practice advising session. Plus, the decoration of the advising spot was so simple with just a table and two chairs, so that one could do nothing but to concentrate on the session when inside. In this respect, having a table between the advisee and the advisor may have some effects on the session, a negative one could be that it symbolises the distance between the advisee and the advisor, whereas a positive one could be the fact that a table is the correct place to discuss matters. Therefore, the environment in which the session was conducted had both positive and negative influences.<\/p>\n

The participant advisee of the practice advising session was Nao (pseudonym) whose major was International Communications. She ironically mentioned her difficulty in communication. Both the advisee and the novice language advisor had no clues about one another until the moment they were told to have a session together at KUIS. The fact that they had never met each other before might have had some effects on the session.<\/p>\n

My Role as a Learning Advisor<\/strong><\/p>\n

From the novice advisor\u2019s, i.e. my perspective, the purpose of the session was likely to \u201ccreate a moment\u201d, if possible, to make the advisee realize any aspect(s) to improve the process of her learning in addition to getting to know her and making her get to know herself as a learner. Through this process, I had the purpose of focusing on the advisee and building rapport and trust with the help of intentional listening.<\/p>\n

Reflection, focusing on and making the notion of \u201cexperience\u201d clear regarding the \u201cself\u201d in relation to the self and the world, is a crucial skill of a language learner in order for him\/her to learn effectively (Boyd & Fales, 1983; Boud, Keogh, & Walker, 1985; Kato & Mynard, 2015). On attending the Learning Advisor Training, I, having been teaching more than 17 years, found myself a guide who may have used some of the basic strategies of reflection unconsciously. However, I still needed to explore the effects of using advising strategies on improving my awareness, and developing control and intentional use of them to help the advisee. From this point of view, it is important to stress that however deep you go into the theoretical information, theory is far different from the actual practice of Intentional Reflective Dialogue (IRD) (Kato & Mynard, 2015) as a way to raise awareness of both the advisor and the advisee.<\/p>\n

Apart from the basic skills like repeating, mirroring, restating, summarising and complimenting (Kato & Mynard, 2015), I feel myself courageous enough to ask powerful questions and make intuitions in my sessions easily, yet it could cause a misunderstanding to make intuitions before building trust in the early phase of the session.<\/p>\n

In this paper, I reflect on the recorded advising dialogue, the transcripts of it, and the transcript of the post-reflection session with another advisor to reflect on and make observations about my own advising.<\/p>\n

Attempts to Build Rapport<\/strong><\/p>\n

In order to communicate understanding and empathy to a learner, there are four strategies likely to be used for building rapport and trust in the very first phase of the advising session. These strategies are repeating, mirroring, restating and summarizing (Kato & Mynard, 2015) Summarizing refers to the advisor\u2019s choice of the key words rather than random ones. Mirroring helps to create a level of similarity in order to make both the advisee and the advisor feel relaxed. When it comes to restating and summarizing, these strategies help the advisee understand the situation better when exposed to some other ways of expressing her issue.<\/p>\n

Here are some excerpts from the exchange between Nao and me in this session. In these extracts, especially the second and the third one, while restating and summarising, I could get the first signals of the issue that her anxiety has hindered her communication with others since someone made fun of her in her childhood:<\/p>\n

Extract 1 <\/strong><\/p>\n

(\u2026)<\/p>\n

NAO:<\/em><\/strong> Recently I try to talk with some international students. <\/em><\/p>\n

LA:<\/em><\/strong> Do you?<\/em><\/p>\n

NAO:<\/em><\/strong> That place where many internationals students are hanging on.. so.. I usually sit on the seat and find an international student and try to talk with them.. <\/em><\/p>\n

LA:<\/em><\/strong> Oh Wow! You mean you are looking for some ways to interact with internaitonal students? <\/strong><\/em>(restating)<\/strong><\/p>\n

NAO:<\/em><\/strong> (Laughing) Yes..<\/em><\/p>\n

(\u2026)<\/p>\n

Extract 2<\/strong><\/p>\n

(\u2026)<\/p>\n

NAO<\/em><\/strong>: My level of judgement is \u2026 aa.. the person .. is kidding me \u2026 is .. my judgement ..<\/em><\/p>\n

LA:<\/em><\/strong> Kidding? <\/strong><\/em>(repeating)<\/strong><\/p>\n

NAO:<\/em><\/strong> Yes ..<\/em><\/p>\n

LA:<\/em><\/strong> You mean .. making fun of.. <\/strong><\/em>(restating)<\/strong><\/p>\n

NAO:<\/em><\/strong> Yes.. kidding is not … aa\u2026 I feel that.. aa .. kidding is.. uncomfortable .. aa \u2026and that.. I cannot trust that person.<\/em><\/p>\n

LA:<\/em><\/strong> Hmm.. so.. when the person starts kidding you.. you don\u2019t feel good..<\/strong><\/em>(restating)<\/strong><\/p>\n

NAO:<\/em><\/strong> I-h\u0131.. I can\u2019t trust him.<\/em><\/p>\n

(\u2026)<\/p>\n

Extract 3<\/strong><\/p>\n

(\u2026)<\/p>\n

NAO:<\/em><\/strong> When I was an elementary school student, that situation was.. no.. junior high school student.. someone kidding me .. a not junior high school student .. someone kidding me .. and I found a friend I can trust..<\/em><\/p>\n

LA:<\/em><\/strong> A-ha <\/strong><\/em>(nodding)<\/strong> so somebody was kidding you and you didn\u2019t want to touch him or her but you found a not-kidding person. This was more comfortable. <\/strong><\/em>(restating \/ summarising)<\/strong><\/p>\n

NAO:<\/em><\/strong> Yes.<\/em><\/p>\n

(\u2026)<\/p>\n

It is crucial to mention that, the use of these four strategies is to show that you are listening to the advisee and understand her situation, but the timing of making use of them matters most to build rapport and trust. Otherwise, the advisee may not feel the connection that the advisor should create within the first minutes of the session. Below is the extract from the session with Nao about her ideas on our session. Here one may clearly see her failure in defining communication, which was another signal of her issue.<\/p>\n

Extract 4<\/strong><\/p>\n

(\u2026)<\/p>\n

LA:<\/em><\/strong> So how do you define communication?<\/em><\/p>\n

NAO:<\/em><\/strong>\u00a0 Aa.. Communication <\/em>(starts thinking deeply) .. is\u2026 talking oor .. aaa..<\/em><\/p>\n

LA:<\/em><\/strong> Talking..<\/em><\/p>\n

NAO:<\/em><\/strong> .. or.. aa talking .. aa.. <\/em><\/p>\n

LA:<\/em><\/strong> Talking .. Is it enough? <\/em><\/p>\n

NAO:<\/em><\/strong> (starts giggling) .. yes talking.. but it\u2019s not.. hmm..<\/em><\/p>\n

LA:<\/em><\/strong> (silent)..<\/em><\/p>\n

NAO:<\/em><\/strong> Hmm..<\/em><\/p>\n

LA:<\/em><\/strong> Hmm<\/strong> <\/em>(repeating the tone)<\/strong> ..<\/em><\/p>\n

NAO:<\/em><\/strong> It is difficult to explain .. <\/em>(laughing)<\/p>\n

LA: <\/em><\/strong>(laughing and they laugh together) yeah.. Is it enough to talk? I mean, are we communicating right now?<\/em><\/p>\n

NAO:<\/em><\/strong> Hmm..<\/em><\/p>\n

LA:<\/em><\/strong> Do you understand my question? Is this a communication?<\/em><\/p>\n

NAO:<\/em><\/strong> Yes..<\/em><\/p>\n

LA:<\/em><\/strong> Yes <\/em>(repeating)<\/p>\n

NAO:<\/em><\/strong> Kind of.. <\/em>(giggles)<\/p>\n

LA:<\/em><\/strong> (shows her surprise and giggles together) What is missing in this communication? What is the problem?<\/em><\/p>\n

NAO:<\/em><\/strong> I dont know about ..aa.. you .. and what you are.. thinking about .. me.. <\/em>(giggles)..<\/em><\/p>\n

LA:<\/em><\/strong> A-ha.. <\/em>(nods deeply)<\/p>\n

NAO:<\/em><\/strong> Yes..<\/em><\/p>\n

LA<\/em><\/strong>: So you feel I don\u2019t know you and you don\u2019t know me, so we can\u2019t communicate? <\/em><\/p>\n

NAO:<\/em><\/strong> No..<\/em><\/p>\n

LA:<\/em><\/strong> Aa..<\/em><\/p>\n

NAO:<\/em><\/strong> But ..hmm.. talking is communication.. aa .. what is communication?\u00a0<\/em>(as if talking to herself)<\/p>\n

LA:<\/em><\/strong> (starts laughing) Your major, eh? <\/em><\/p>\n

NAO:<\/em><\/strong> Yes, communication but..<\/em><\/p>\n

LA:<\/em><\/strong> What is communication anyway?<\/strong><\/em>(repeating her words and tone)<\/strong> Are you a freshman or..?<\/em><\/p>\n

NAO:<\/em><\/strong> Yes, I\u2019m a freshman ..<\/em><\/p>\n

LA:<\/em><\/strong>\u00a0 Maybe you\u2019ll learn more and more deeply when you get better.. <\/em><\/p>\n

NAO:<\/em><\/strong> Yes.<\/em><\/p>\n

(\u2026)<\/p>\n

On reflecting about the practice session in a session with another learning advisor colleague of mine, I found myself having a monologue about the session. Below is an extract from the post reflection session where I implied my frustration about the session several times. However, this extract shows how disappointed I felt and told this explicitly, which was a kind of relief to put the real feeling into words:<\/p>\n

Extract 5<\/strong><\/p>\n

ME<\/strong>:<\/em><\/strong> And even I asked, you know, in some case.. I said, \u201cOK, do you think it\u2019s a communication?\u201d I said \u201cThis..\u201d she said \u201cKind of..\u201d <\/em>(laughing) .. so this was really ironic for me to ask her such personal questions and all trying to poke her to be going deeper .. and .. not communicating in her case, in her mind.. this was really disappointing for me to hear this.. I mean, that is miraculous for a person to say in the very 10 mins of the very first meeting.. saying .. a-ha.. how good communication we are having.. no I wasn\u2019t expecting this.. so, what was I expecting I don\u2019t know .. <\/em><\/p>\n

STEPHANIE:<\/em><\/strong> What were you expecting?<\/em><\/p>\n

ME: <\/em><\/strong>I don\u2019t know, OK, she was just good at nailing the issue indeed… <\/em>(laughing) but what I felt was.. I hope I didn\u2019t invent a problem in your words.. but she was really having some issues, I mean, with communicating with people because she said, you can hear it in the recording that even a good, ideal communication she couldn\u2019t even go to a cafe or have some casual talks or go deeper or go and see a movie with a person that she had talked ten times or so.. after ten times or so she just start being a friend with that person ..<\/em><\/p>\n

In this respect I was far from being satisfied as an advisor during and after the session. Although I obviously attempted to, I felt like I was unable to build rapport and make the advisee trust me in such a way that she thought it was not our first but one of our weekly sessions. The reason for this could have been not only my too deep questions (in the very first session) for a low level English user like her to answer, but also my being too focused on my \u201cfalse\u201d target which was asking more and more questions instead of listening more intentionally.<\/p>\n

Empathising and Complimenting<\/strong><\/p>\n

I have always found showing empathy the best way to reach a person even in my daily life. Therefore, in any of my advising sessions it is one of my favourite skills for building rapport and trust. It was a relief to get a bigger smile whenever I did so in the advising session with Nao which was like a confirmation of my preference through the process.<\/p>\n

Empathising in this sense, one of the most powerful tools in building trust in the relationship between the advisor and the advisee, has been defined as the ability to put yourself in others\u2019 shoes and see the world the way they do (Kato & Mynard, 2015). Plus, feeling the support of the advisor makes the advisee feel noticed and valued.<\/p>\n

Here is another excerpt from the session where I tried to do my best to build ourselves a private \u201cspace\u201d where Nao could feel safe, understood and listened to without being judged or made fun of unlike her fears:<\/p>\n

Extract 6<\/strong><\/p>\n

(\u2026)<\/p>\n

NAO:<\/em><\/strong> My experience was.. special when I was a child..<\/em><\/p>\n

LA:<\/em><\/strong> What did you experience when you were a child? <\/em>(Leaning towards, showing more interest)<\/p>\n

NAO: <\/em><\/strong>Aaa.. I went to 3 elementary schools.. <\/em><\/p>\n

LA:<\/em><\/strong> Aa did you?<\/em><\/p>\n

NAO:<\/em><\/strong> I moved out of 3 prefectures..<\/em><\/p>\n

LA:<\/em><\/strong> Ohh <\/strong><\/em>(nodding)<\/strong> .. This must be difficult .. <\/strong><\/em>(Empathising)<\/strong><\/p>\n

NAO:<\/em><\/strong> Yes.. <\/em>(smiling).. To find friends .. and communicating with friends was difficult\u00a0 \u2026 but I tried to .. communicate with each.. elementary school.. students..<\/em><\/p>\n

LA:<\/em><\/strong> Students.. <\/strong><\/em>(repeating)<\/strong> But .. this .. shows .. I mean.. You must be really strong about adaptability <\/strong><\/em>(complimenting)<\/strong>..<\/strong><\/em><\/p>\n

NAO:<\/em><\/strong> Yes <\/em>(laughing) .. yes..<\/em><\/p>\n

LA:<\/em><\/strong> You are?<\/em><\/p>\n

NAO:<\/em><\/strong> Yes.. the circumstances trained my mental .. <\/em>(laughing)<\/p>\n

LA:<\/em><\/strong> This is so cool. This shows how strong you are about communication<\/strong>.. <\/em>(complimenting)<\/strong><\/p>\n

NAO:<\/em><\/strong> (Smiling) ..<\/em><\/p>\n

LA:<\/em><\/strong> Is this because .. your communication skill is so high that you picked this department, international relations?<\/em><\/p>\n

NAO:<\/em><\/strong> Yes .. Maybe..<\/em><\/p>\n

Time to Intuit? Really?<\/strong><\/p>\n

Having a literature background, I have always liked reading between the lines in any exchange of words, not to mention asking the deepest questions even in casual talks. However, this feature may be a drawback in the very first phase of an advising session. Since, asking powerful questions and intuition can be effectively used to be more aware and gain a perspective, only when they are used after building rapport and trust (Kato & Mynard, 2015).<\/p>\n

When Nao was even unable to define communication in the forth extract, and mentioned about her anxiety when talking to a stranger I was quite sure that it was not easy for her to trust people and made my first \u201cintuition\u201d as a novice advisor. However, it was not me but the advisee herself that should be the one to come to this realisation and put this feeling into words. Below is the extract that has my words of a huge assumption about Nao, which makes me feel regretful whenever I watch the session. These were the first, and I hope, the last most directive words I would ever have for an advisee.<\/p>\n

Extract 7<\/strong><\/p>\n

(\u2026)<\/p>\n

LA:<\/em><\/strong> Hmm.. so.. when the person starts kidding you.. you don\u2019t feel good <\/strong><\/em>(restating)<\/strong><\/p>\n

NAO:<\/em><\/strong> I-h\u0131.. I can\u2019t trust him.<\/em><\/p>\n

LA:<\/em><\/strong> That\u2019s why you can\u2019t trust him\u2026 Ohh.. OK. Of course.. This is something ..<\/strong> I understand you.. <\/strong><\/em>(empathising)<\/strong> so this is something that makes a person feel uncomfortable and a stranger as you said.<\/strong><\/em> (restating)<\/strong> .. <\/strong>That\u2019s a good point .. I got an A-HA point about you.. You are .. I think it\u2019s difficult for you to trust other people. <\/strong><\/em>(intuiting)<\/strong>\u00a0 \u2026 <\/em><\/p>\n

NAO:<\/em><\/strong> (Pause)<\/p>\n

LA:<\/em><\/strong> (Pause) A.. what do you think is the reason? Why? .. I mean.. let\u2019s turn back to your childhood.. Do you remember anybody kidding you when you were a youngster? <\/strong><\/em>(Metaviewing\/linking)<\/strong><\/p>\n

NAO:<\/em><\/strong> When I was an elementary school student, that situation was.. no.. junior high school student.. someone kidding me .. a not junior high school student .. someone kidding me .. and I found a friend I can trust..<\/em><\/p>\n

LA:<\/em><\/strong> A-ha <\/strong><\/em>(nodding)<\/strong> so somebody was kidding you and you didn\u2019t want to touch him or her but you found a not-kidding person. This was more comfortable. <\/strong><\/em>(restating\/summarising)<\/strong><\/p>\n

NAO:<\/em><\/strong> Yes.<\/em><\/p>\n

LA:<\/em><\/strong> Aha.. yes we have comfort zones in relationships. We want to feel comfortable to have real communication .. This is so good.. <\/strong><\/em>(complimenting)<\/strong> .. this is so normal.. This is so human <\/strong><\/em>(empathising)<\/strong> .. Ha?<\/em><\/p>\n

NAO:<\/em><\/strong> H\u0131m ..<\/em> (nodding)<\/p>\n

LA:<\/em><\/strong> Everybody needs to have comfort to have a communication like that.. You are so good indeed .. definitely.. <\/strong><\/em>(complimenting)<\/strong><\/p>\n

NAO:<\/em><\/strong> (smiling and nodding)<\/p>\n

LA:<\/em><\/strong> I understand how you want to protect yourself. <\/strong><\/em>(empathising)<\/strong>.. this is so good about yourself. <\/em><\/p>\n

(\u2026)<\/p>\n

Extract 8 <\/strong><\/p>\n

(\u2026)<\/p>\n

NAO:<\/em><\/strong> Yes I want to trust people more..<\/em><\/p>\n

LA:<\/em><\/strong> (nodding) a-aha..<\/em><\/p>\n

NAO:<\/em><\/strong> When I was a child I wanted to protect me \u2026 but when I grow up I want to communicate with a lot of .. more a lot of \u2026 people.. and I want to trust people more.. <\/strong><\/em>(laughing) (linking)<\/strong><\/p>\n

(\u2026)<\/p>\n

While in LA Training, I was advised to draw a fine line between intuiting and making assumptions, because the latter could result in intimidating the learner and putting a distance between the learner and me, which is the last thing to do in an advising session. Maybe I took a big risk in the first session by preferring to have an intuition or a huge assumption about the learner, but having confirmations validated \u2013 which can be seen especially in the extract below\u2013 made me feel relieved about the session later on.<\/p>\n

Extract 9<\/strong><\/p>\n

(\u2026)<\/p>\n

LA:<\/em><\/strong> \u00a0Because your major is international communication, maybe you should think \u201cwhy can\u2019t I start the conversation easily?\u201d or \u201cwhy can\u2019t I trust the person easily in the first place?\u201d Because you told me your concerns about Japanese people as well not only with international ones. You may find yourself a little bit intimidated while speaking to Japanese as well .. ha?<\/em><\/p>\n

NAO:<\/em><\/strong> .<\/em>(nodding)..<\/em><\/p>\n

LA:<\/em><\/strong>\u00a0 OK.. So maybe next target would be for you considering what to do .. any..\u00a0 what to do next to feel much better in communication? Ha?<\/em><\/p>\n

NAO:<\/em><\/strong> What to do? \u2026 aa..<\/em><\/p>\n

LA:<\/em><\/strong> What do you think you should do?\u00a0<\/strong><\/em>(accountability)<\/strong><\/p>\n

NAO:<\/em><\/strong> ( start thinking deeply)\u2026 hmmm\u2026. To.. know\u2026 aa.. to ..try to know about the person\u2026<\/em><\/p>\n

LA:<\/em><\/strong> H\u0131mm\u2026mm\u2026 <\/em>(nodding) .. <\/em>(pausing) .. more and more quickly.. or more deeply?!<\/em><\/p>\n

NAO:<\/em><\/strong> Deeply\u2026<\/em><\/p>\n

In the session, I concentrated on empathising, accountability, guiding, and intuiting while I was trying to get into what is going on in her inner-self as a learner. In doing this, due to my literature-based background and my irrevocable fondness for indirectness, using metaphors and lexiphanicism, I found the talk in the first phase being too deep for the first session. When it came to casual talks and questions with easier answers, I realised that we had a better flow and I had more data about her, which can be determined to be the clear difference between the two phases of the session. Nevertheless, a more directive intervention of intuiting and metaviewing in the early stages may have helped her to make certain realisations sooner.<\/p>\n

Discussion<\/strong><\/p>\n

My expectation about the practice advising session was crystal clear in my words from the reflection session with Stephanie. Here they are:<\/p>\n

Extract 10<\/strong><\/p>\n

(\u2026)<\/p>\n

STEPHANIE:<\/em><\/strong> What if you had a session with a student that actually didn\u2019t need your help, how would you have felt at the end of that session? <\/em><\/p>\n

ME:<\/em><\/strong> Nothing.. nothing good at all.. I just would like to see some data maybe .. data that I need to feel that much better\u2026 about helping.. I mean.. this is all about .. you know.. feeling that satisfaction when you see that you really helped somebody.. but this is actually impossible for the first session.. and this is my problem..<\/em><\/p>\n

STEPHANIE:<\/em><\/strong> Yeah.. but you are actually trying too hard .. if I can use my intuition here: you are trying too hard.<\/em><\/p>\n

ME:<\/em><\/strong> Yeah.. most probably.. I shouldn\u2019t be an outcome person.. I have ne.. no I shouldn\u2019t be saying that I have never been an outcome person.. but I think outcomes are much less important than .. or let\u2019s say process is more important than the outcome.. That\u2019s what I missed during the session.. I shoudn\u2019t come with an action plan .. as I told\u00a0 you.. in the first session.. come on Gamze.. you just started having a chat with a person.. It\u2019s impossible to understand her, to make her understand herself, an then pin a problem together and create an awareness on how to get rid of that problem and then.. start to poke her, or let\u2019s say pump her the enthusiasm to reach her target right after the session.. come on.. this takes loads of sessions in reality.. so I was expecting so high.. that\u2019s why when I watched it sometime later again and again.. I felt.. OK.. Wow.. I even did some intuition in the very first session, OK.. I did some pinning the problem in the first session..OK.. yeah, I just had some unnecessary talk.. I just did some guiding type of covering for my talks.. but this was not bad at all.. from another perspective..<\/em><\/p>\n

STEPHANIE:<\/em><\/strong> Yeah.. It sounds to me that you are learning a lot..<\/em><\/p>\n

ME<\/em><\/strong>: Yeah, I am.. indeed..<\/em><\/p>\n

(\u2026)<\/p>\n

There are some experiences in human life that teaches more than anything and that you cannot learn your lesson without actually experiencing it. I bet the first advising sessions are like some stories that make you feel so down while reading them, but give you the best lessons by thinking about them over and over again. My first session as a learning advisor could be defined as not my first but literally one of the best teachers in my advising process. From the beginning till the end I clearly made the biggest mistake of keeping control in my hands instead of giving the wheel to the advisee to lead the flow of the session. Instead, focusing on the outcomes of the one-on-one session undermined the process. On the other hand, asking powerful questions before building rapport created an opportunity for me to find the deeper issue earlier than expected. No matter how much the negative feelings dominated the session, I cannot deny the fact that I, in my very first session, was able to employ the strategies of intuition and metaviewing which helped to pinpoint the issue earlier. This also helped the advisee link her issue with her past experiences, which would potentially give way for her to find her own way of solving her issue in the following sessions, if we had a chance to have some.<\/p>\n

Acknowledgement<\/strong><\/p>\n

This work was supported by the Scientific Research Fund (BAP) at Ankara \u00a0Y\u0131ld\u0131r\u0131m \u00a0Beyaz\u0131t University, Turkey, \u00a0as part of \u00a0Project 3934 in the 2017-2018 academic year.<\/p>\n

Notes on the contributor<\/strong><\/p>\n

Gamze Guven Yalcin is an English Instructor and a Learning Advisor at Ankara Y\u0131ld\u0131r\u0131m Beyaz\u0131t University, School of Foreign Languages. She holds her bachelor degree in English Language and Literature. She is a certified live online trainer. Her research interests are Advising in Language Learning, Blended Learning, gamification and a\/sycnhronous online teaching.<\/p>\n

References<\/strong><\/p>\n

Boyd, E. M., & Fales, A. W. (1983). Reflective learning: Key to learning from experience. Journal of Humanistic Psychology<\/em>, 23<\/em>(2), 99-117.<\/p>\n

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